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  • Writer's pictureDr. Karin Anderson Abrell

Sometimes What The Heart Wants Is Stupid

Dating and Single Life Advice - Dr. Karin Anderson Abrell

Sometimes when dating, I let my sadness make me stupid.

For example...

Dylan had left and I was devastated.

But as I’ve mentioned in previous posts, we played the on-again/off-again game for years.

Which was hard for my friends to watch, of course.

One time, I was telling my BFF how I was heading to New York to visit Dylan and she lost it.

“Why are you torturing yourself???” she screamed.

At the time I felt she didn’t understand. But looking back, she was right.

The back and forth only prolonged the demise of a relationship that had run its course—prolonging the pain as well.

I used to tell myself, “The heart wants what the heart wants.”

But sometimes what the heart wants is stupid.

And I knew better. I was smarter than that.

It’s okay to be sad. But it’s not okay to be stupid.

Because being stupid just makes us sadder in the end anyway.

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