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  • Writer's pictureDr. Karin Anderson Abrell

5 Things Singles Should NOT Do To Enjoy This Valentine's Day

Single this Valentine's Day? Here's how to make the best of this love-struck day!

So you're single on Valentines Day—again. This sweetheart holiday can unnerve even the toughest singletons. At every turn you're reminded, "Love is in the air—for everyone except you!"

It's easy to slip into a negative space, which only makes things worse.

So this year, as you wait for Cupid to unleash an arrow your way, keep your spirits up by following the points below:

Don't Be Jealous.

Keep the green-eyed monster at bay! Entertaining jealous thoughts not only wastes emotional energy but also makes you seem petty and small. When canoodling lovebirds cross your path, instead of grumbling, "I wish I had what they have…" turn jealousy into hope by reminding yourself, "Someday, I'll have a love like that!"

Don't Be Lonely.

Just because you're alone, doesn’t mean you have to be lonely. Pull together a posse of singletons and hit the town. Plenty of bars and clubs offer Valentine's events for singles so take advantage of them. That way, if you end up crying in your beer, at least you'll be among friends.

Don't Be A Valentine's Scrooge.

Sporting a chip on your shoulder and spewing snarky "I hate this stupid holiday" comments get you nowhere—and certainly won't help you find love. Remember, this holiday isn't only about romance.

Make it a time to celebrate other loves in your life! Send cards to friends or surprise your parents with flowers. Take you niece out for a Valentine's brunch. And certainly don't forget that most special someone—treat yourself to a box of chocolates and enjoy the fact you don't have to share!

Don't Feel Sorry For Yourself.

It may not be your choice to be single but you can choose your emotions surrounding Valentine's Day. You determine whether February 14th holds any meaning. It's up to you. If you decide Valentine's Day is no big deal, it won't be. But if you allow this one day to take you down and make you miserable, it will. But recognize, you have a choice.

Don't Play Comparison Games.

Sometimes we watch our friends coupling up and wonder how they found love so easily while we remain solo. What do they have that we don't? But this "grass is greener" mentality merely keeps us spinning our wheels. Remember, we all walk our own path.

Resisting our journey changes nothing—it merely creates frustration. Besides, couples who marry at a young age often struggle as they grow up together. If you're older when you meet The One, you'll likely bypass some of those challenges. And remember, the maturity you achieve as an individual pays big dividends once you do partner up.

Valentine's Day doesn’t have to derail you. Stay true to your positive, hopeful, happy self and soar through this lovey-dovey season in style!

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